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How do I know if I or my adolescent/teen need counseling?

How do I know if I need counseling?
Most of us know what we need to do to improve our physical health. We have learned a great deal about both preventive and curative measures, and we know how to live longer and healthier.
We do not know as much about good mental health. There are many reasons for this; one being that stress, disappointment and an excessive frustration are part of life. Many believe that even if a stress-free life were possible, it would not be desirable, as stress can serve to motivate us and challenge us toward seeking improvements.
So, how do we know when stress becomes excessive, and what is good mental health? In simple terms, good mental health consists of honestly being able to generally feel happy and content with our lives, most of the time. In what ways do we want to feel happy and content? There are many ways, but most psychologists and mental health professionals would agree with 
the following:
  • We want to feel generally happy and content when we are alone. This means we do not fear or avoid our times alone, but rather we can embrace and enjoy our time alone.
  • We want to feel generally happy and content when we are with people.
  • We want to feel generally happy and content when we are with special persons- our family and friends.
  • We want to feel generally happy and content in our work.
  • We want to feel generally happy and content when we pursue our leisure and recreational interests.
These five areas serve as a barometer for us about our mental health, and seeking improvements by resolving problems or issues that interfere in these areas may likely lead to greater contentment and less negative, dysfunctional emotions and behaviors.
If you believe that you are not as happy and content as you would like, or if you believe you may suffer from depression, anxiety, or moodiness, please feel free to contact us for a consultation.
In addition to working with individuals in counseling, we also work with couples in marriage counseling or relationship counseling, and with families in family counseling.
A child’s life involves all sorts of new experiences and new demands, which become a continuous challenge of trial and error. Therefore, all sorts of temporary problems, fears, misbehaviors, and mistakes are bound to happen and can be considered normal.
Therefore, it can be very difficult for a parent to determine if counseling is necessary when an adolescent/teen is experiencing emotional stress or unusual behavior.
Often, the best way for a parent to make such a decision is to evaluate four main areas of your adolescent/teen’s life: home, school, social life, and personal life. If there seems to be a serious problem in one or more than one of these areas, then a professional evaluation of his/her overall emotional state may be advisable.
Among the issues to consider in your adolescent/teen’s life are:
Do you and your adolescent/teen frequently quarrel? How intense are these quarrels? How well does he/she recover from them? Do you repeatedly quarrel about the same issues without making much progress?
Does your adolescent/teen frequently argue, antagonize and bicker with siblings? How intense are these behaviors? How well does he/she recover from them? Do they repeatedly have conflicts about the same issue without making much progress?
Is your adolescent/teen consistently unhappy or withdrawn at home?
Does your adolescent/teen consistently avoid one or more other members of the family? How does this avoidance affect the avoided member and/or other family members?
Has your adolescent/teen’s behavior at home undergone any significant and lasting change for the worse recently?
Is your adolescent/teen’s academic performance consistently poor?
Does he/she repeatedly exhibit behavior problems at school?
Is he/she frequently unhappy about school?
Has your adolescent/teen’s behavior at school recently undergone any significant negative change?
Does your adolescent/teen frequently quarrel with peers? How intense are the quarrels? How well does he/she child recover from them?
Does he/she consistently avoid contact with peers?
Does he/she frequently express fear, dissatisfaction and anger regarding peer relationships?
Does he/she appear to suffer from a lack of friends?
Does your adolescent/teen frequently express boredom or an inability to find things to do? How well does he/she handle such situations?
Does he/she appear to suffer from a lack of self-esteem? Does he/she make negative comments about themselves?
Does he/she engage in any self-punishing behavior or in solitary activities that appear to you to be unhealthy?
Does he/she appear to suffer from a lack of interests or initiative?
If you think your adolescent/teen’s emotional health should be evaluated by a professional, do not hesitate to take action. As a rule, the sooner problems are determined and treated, the better the chances are for solutions.


Daniel J. Kachman, Ed. D., P.C.
454 S. Main Street
Lapeer, MI 48446
Phone: (810) 664-4363

Business Hours

Mon: 10:00 AM - 08:00 PM
Tue: 09:00 AM - 08:00 PM
Wed - Sun: Closed
Evening Appointments Available

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In Business Since 1989

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